It was hard not to consider where you were at that moment, what you
would have been doing. When we call someone, we’re inevitably poking our
noses unexpectedly into a life that is very much in the process of
being lived. They’re out at a bar, they’re having a serious
conversation, they’re watching a movie. There is something going on that
you are now interrupting, and though it’s not a crime to tap them on
the shoulder, the moment you walk into changes everything about the
conversation. I thought of how embarrassed I would be if you had picked
up with sharp, shouted bar talk filling the room behind you. If you were
surrounded by friends, by opportunity, by everything that I didn’t want
to think about — how would I talk to you? You telling me, “I can’t hear
you, can you speak up?” with your friends laughing in the background,
and me doing what? Telling you I’d call you later? That couldn’t be the
context of my call.
Why am I calling? I’m calling because, though the inevitable silence
following your “Hello?” that necessitates a breathless explanation on my
part makes my palms sweat and stomach turn, not calling is no longer an
option. The percentage of my days spent thinking about what would
happen if I spoke to you, if I reached out, if I said something, now
greatly eclipses the time spent where you don’t cross my mind. What was
once an itch at the back of my brain, an amusing what-if that was never
supposed to be acknowledged, is now an all-consuming need to confirm
that, regardless of what direction life has taken you in, you are still
familiar of the path that led you there. You know, the one that included
us, together, as something that we cannot smother with the passage of
time. I guess calling you to say hello, to even confirm that you still
exist with that same voice and the “hmm” I can hear when you smile
through your words, is more necessary than it is uncomfortable.
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