Why Relationships Can Suck & Still Be Worth It

 "So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning."

--Tuesday's With Morie

We all have off days, we wake up late, forgot to do a paper, failed our last test and then dropped our computer on the floor. These days get exponentially worse when you drag someone else into your misery too. And that is just one reason being in a relationship can suck. Especially when you are a young adult and you are mostly worried about yourself and fail to see how one wrong text message can immediately alter someones mood for the rest of the day. But it does. And then your off day becomes your relationships off day. And you get stuck in this cycle for the rest of the day going back and forth with are you mad at me's, but you can't help it because everything else is going wrong today so of course this would too!
This is just one of the pitfalls to relationships. But there are many, you worry about another human's emotions, actions and thoughts. You get frustrated when you two don't always want the same thing or when something doesn't work out, you take out every emotion on them for no reasons, and you are paranoid that you aren't good enough. Relationships are one of the biggest confidence killers and boosters around. You have to realize you can't always win, there will be days you will say everything wrong and you just have to keep going and hope that it doesn't ruin everything you work for.
Relationships suck. A lot. But it is because they are hard, if it is easy it isn't worth it. You have to work at things every day and every day isn't going to be easy. But relationships are just like everything else, the more work you put in them the better they are.
Because relationships really are worth the effort both parties have to put in. So it is a troublesome to have to worry about someone elses well being, but isn't nice to know that someone is worrying about yours? And sometimes schedules don't match up and it gets frustrating but isn't nice to have someone who wants to see you as often as they can? And the blame gets placed where it shouldn't, and sometimes we yell at each other because of something totally unrelated, but we feel like we can do that because if we truly didn't want to be with each other we wouldn't be right? We can get in fights because we know that the other person isn't going to just pack their bags and leave before we even get the chance to say "I'm sorry."
I'm in a relationship and I wont lie and say we never fight or never misunderstand each other, in fact it is a cold day in hell if we can get through a day with out either of these things occurring, but on mornings like Tuesday, where I had only been awake for an hour and everything had gone wrong, it was nice to know I had someone to call, who not only at that moment cared about whether I was okay or not but twelve hours later still worried.
Relationships are worth every moment that you wanted to bang your head against the wall because you didn't understand, every time you wanted to call it quits and move on, and all the bad things we whine about every day. Because knowing that there is someone who can reciprocate the emotional tie you have to them and that they will be there for you even when you don't want them to be will always beat out those moments or days of frustration.